Intermediate (Double Saved?) Stub on How to Honor Your Father circa 13 December 2025

 

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B. Do not try to judge your father

C. Do not be rude to him.

D. Do not try to prove him wrong.

E. Do not ignore your father. Rather, greet him when you come home, etc. give tacit acknowledgment to his presence. Behave as if he is there.

F. Do not refuse to answer your father.
Do not annoy your parents.
Do not interrupt them.
Do not try to change them, particularly their acquired habits from the culture of their youth.
Do not yet to "modernize" your parents.
Accept then implicitly with maximum loving acceptance, just as they are – remembering that they always showed up for you as a child, they worked hard for you at every turn, making daily sacrifices that no one the would have made for you, the kind that only parents do.

Most importantly, ABIDE with them, as Christ did abide with His disciples, even when it was difficult. (This is very good for you,v adding all potential for neuroses, anxiety, despair, depression, and thus and such. In fact, expect to have a shorter, more miserable, addiction-filled life when you steadily fail to grow in the daily practice of honoring your parents. And expect these holy constraints to continue after the passing of your parents thru that heavenly veil into the afterlife... For they are still nonetheless your parents.

Good created the parental role as a means of building selfish, unlocking humans into fodder for heaven, or material that is:
A) more amenable to the gospel message
B) more given to accepting the NT commands toward sanctification, "Love one another," "Bear each others burdens;" etc.
C) Better disposed to loving God and walking in His ways, which He prepared for you before the foundation of the world.
For there is little chance that a child who does not learn to honor his parents will be able to learn to honor God, have the perspective to see truly the value of God's loving offer, and have the meekness and humility requisite to take up his cross and follow Christ.  (Rather such a child will be far more disposed to just pay mere lip service to Jesus and rather go off and do "his own thing," wholly ignoring every crystal clear command of Christ, ever demand on Him of Christ — who owns every square inch of this universe — and lose eternally.

   Keep your parents company. (Include salient WSJ Article about man who listened to his father for 30 minutes or more on the phone every day, despite the inherent difficulty for him.)
Learn to abide with them.

Always humor your father. Look at things from his perspective. If he says all dogs are male and all cats are female, just say, that's a fact, Dad. However, make sure you don't say it in a chiding, condescending, or mocking way. Use your good sense and do not contend with him, but lovingly find genuine agreement with him, giving him the benefit of the doubt in the greatest means of human respect in these matters. If he is serious,
then respond as if God created him especially for you, to be your father, and implanted within him the inability to act in any mannet that precludes him from doing his best to love you as a father throughout all of his days in earth as you faster:
   A) providing for you.
   C) supporting you emotionally in ways no one else on earth could ever do.
   B) watching over you in every stage and aspect of your life in earth (and do not be surprised when you find daily evidence is ways your father provided for your better spiritual, psychological, emotional, and material maturation & growth long after he has died and left you so well h cared for in this earth...) For that is just precisely what fathers do..., when you let them be genuine fathers unto you, in living, daily intimate relationship.


G. Greet him when you see him. Learn to say, "Hello" and "Good-bye" to him. Do not ignore him when he greets you. Do not think it your father as being silly.
G1- rather, defend your father. 
G2-
From today's sermon, Matthew 21. Psalm 118, the parable of the vineyard.

Protect your father's reputation. Do not spread gossip, slander, or unsavory words about your father. Be his champion at every turn.
    E.G.: Have the presence of mind (and freedom from folly and confusion) to require two or three Christian witnesses for any assault on your father's character. Do not accept hearsay as a source that would attack your father's character or sully his name. 


H. Do not be contentious with your father.
I. Do not inwardly scoff at your father.
J. Do not hide information from your father. Do not mislead your father.
Do not deride your father.
Do not look down on your father, even if he spills raspberry jam on his shirt or makes a social gaffe in his old age.
Never let yourself fall into the self-pitying miasma of wishing even for an instant that God had given you a different  or "better" father.
Rather, give greater honor to your father than you would ever give an ordinary king, president, prime minister, or mindless dictator/military leader.

Always tell your father when you are leaving and be sure to say "goodbye."

King Comparison:
   Treat your father with consistently better honor than you would show an earthly king. Listen well. Be polite evincing your best manners. The Bible tells us to honor kings, but the Bible gives us the command to honor or parents in the Decalogue, which does not end.

Keep your parents company in their old age and consider the regular abatement of their potential for loneliness (with the very provenance of your quiet presence) the least that you could do for them given that they sacrificed fit your better development more than anyone could ever quantify.
   

HEART.  (As the Lord wants your heart, so does your father.  Mstyhew 21:28 two sons respond to their father's command, "Son, go work today in my vineyard."

J. Share your heart with your father, rather than buying him presents.  Every parent bO know needs nothing material, but wants his children to grow in the maturity of learning to share their hearts, sharing their hopes, dreams, fears, challenges, desires, and this and such. 
K. Do not be sparing in sharing your heart with your parents whenever you can.

L. Confide in them as if the LORD created your parents fur you in a special way, such that they:
   1. Know you better than you could know yourself.
   2. Love you sacrificially such that there is no one on earth who would ever sacrifice more for you (even at the drop of a hat), without a moments hesitation.
   3. They share the common, built-in paternal characteristics described by Jesus when he asked what fathers (even the wicked fathers among you) would give a child a rock when he asks for an egg, or a stone when he asks for a loaf of bread, or a serpent when he asks for a fish.
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As The Day Follows The Night

All good comes from God. If I serve anyone well or have a good influence on anyone, I cannot take credit for it.​ For my Father in Heaven has blessed me through the traditions of my parents.​ He has built good into our works, our ways, our behaviors, and our traditions.

​Some years after I had graduated from high school​, Eric Wilson and Terry Price told me that I was a legend there, that it had a good effect on people. That is from God alone working through the traditions of my fathers.

I could have done none of that alone. I was a mere tool.​ As the eddies spin in the sides of the creeks, so natural​ly it is unavoidable that a man walks in goodness by that which he learned from his fathers. No man creates himself.